The reason I decided to write about the difference between a psychic and a fortune teller, stems from some of the questions and problems I first encountered setting up my office years ago in a small rural community. I would get calls like "is this the fortune teller?" When I would explain that I am not a fortune teller, but a psychic medium who uses palmistry, psychometry and occasionally a crystal ball, I would be impatiently interrupted with "Well, you tell fortunes don't you?" So here is an attempt to answer this question as well as some questions some of you may have about readers as to their reputation, accuracy or psychic ability.
1. Be certain that the reader's ego doesn't get in the way. For example, "I'm a reader for the celebrities," "I'm booked solid at all psychic fairs," or "I can tell ALL past, present and future."
2. Beware of psychic predictions of disaster. Yes, it might happen, but it might not! The psychic reader is predicting a trend, not an unchangeable event. Your free will enters in at all times and you can change what you don't like according to your choice.
3. Don't allow the reader to make you feel dependent on him or her. For example, "You must consult me first before you make a decision." "Don't make a move without talking to me".
4. Be sure that money is not the main issue. Naturally, the reader is worthy of payment; however exorbitant fees are uncalled for and ridiculously low fees are usually attributed to a fortune teller. There are some exceptions to this rule, for instance, the psychic reader who has been around for years and started out with a low fee and never raised it. Low fees or contributions (unless a non-profit organization or a minister) usually indicates a lack of confidence in his or her psychic abilities since they can't put a price on their services (this does not apply to psychic fairs where psychic readings are brief and are not in-depth).
5. Beware of gossips. A true psychic would never reveal the name of other clients, not even famous ones.
6. The true psychic will not make decisions for you. For example, "Sell your home," "Quit your job," or "Get a divorce."
7. Watch out for psychic readers who "put down" other readers. For example, "I don't usually talk about other psychics, but...." This is usually an indication that the reader is not at all confident in his or her abilities as a true psychic. You will always be drawn to the psychic you need!
8. Watch out for psychic readers who "put down" forms of divination other than the methods that they employ. Many methods are available and are equally valid and each reader has his or her own special gifts, talent or skill.
9. A true psychic would never try to convert you to his/her beliefs. Also, keep in mind that those beliefs should not interfere in any way with the accuracy or validity of the psychic reading. If this is the case, you probably have a fortune teller on your hands.
10. Be wary of the reader who tries to convince you of your fate. Nothing is irrevocable! For example they may say, "It's in the cards. You can't change it," "This is your destiny and you can't do anything about it," or "Your chart doesn't lie."
11. Don't expect the psychic reader to be "right" on everything. Nobody's perfect! Remember that what you consider to be invalid information at the present time could turn out to be quite accurate in the future. Also, keep in mind that the reader predicts "possibilities and probabilities" not certainties (because free will always comes into play).
12. Be cautious of psychic readers who pump you for information. Occasional questions are okay in order to clarify an issue, and of course, friendly conversation helps to put you both at ease. But a fortune teller can work wonders with bits of information that you have unwittingly provided.
13. A fortune teller will tell you what he or she thinks you want to hear just to please you. A true psychic will not.
14. A fortune teller will lay heavy predictions and bad news on you...lots of "gloom and doom." For example, "I can sense death all around you." A true psychic knows that there is plenty of good to be found in a psychic reading. After all, you consult a psychic reader in the first place because you want to gain some insight and develop a better understanding of where your life is headed.
15. Don't be afraid of the psychic reader who advertises in the newspaper, magazine, Internet, or signs in front of his/her home. How they choose to make themselves known to the public is entirely their decision. It's the content of the reading and the overall general feeling that you get from the reader that you should be concerned with.
16. A true psychic will not try to impress you with conversation full of "New Age" jargon. Some of the terminology may be foreign to you, but all in all, you should be able to understand what you're being told. If you don't understand, ask the reader to explain. If he or she can't explain, then you've probably come across a fortune teller.
17. A true psychic will tell you that he or she has done much research, study, observation and practice in order to develop psychic skills. A fortune teller may say that one day "things just started to come to me." Everyone has psychic abilities; however, developing psychic ability takes time in regards to developing abilities into skills. A psychic reading must be based on more than just emotion. Intellect plays an integral part in the life of a true psychic. Of course, there are some truly natural psychics who have never tried to develop their gifts to a greater degree, but they are the exception rather than the rule.
18. Beware of readers who make psychic predictions after the fact. That sounds like a contradiction in terms, but we all know of readers who, after the occurrence of an event said "My guides told me that was going to happen," "I knew all about that in advance because I dreamed about it," or "That came to me in a vision!" Sure, we've all (at times), wished we would have verbalized a hunch or a feeling, but a true psychic would either verbalize it ahead of time or keep quiet about it after it happened, instead of trying to make him or herself look good later and save face.
19. All good psychic readings will take a look at the past. You know your past, but the reader doesn't. He or she knows that the past is the parent of the present and the present is the foundation of the future. Information from the past is necessary in order to give an accurate reading.
Just remember, we're only human and we all make mistakes. Yes, there are charlatans among us as there are in every field. After all, as someone once said, "There could be no imitation if the real thing didn't exist."
An excellent way for you to "get the feel" of how a psychic reading should be is to attend one of the many psychic fairs that are available to the public. Don't expect an in-depth reading at a psychic fair, but have an enjoyable time and acquaint yourself with the many types of readings that are available.
I hope this is helpful to you in making good decisions when you are contemplating visiting a psychic reader. Psychic readings should not be mysterious and hopefully you'll be encouraged to do some research and studying on your own!